Better Sleep without Sleep Training
There are a lot of “sleep consultants” and even “sleep doulas” out there. Many of them are calm caring people who help you in your home with hands-on evening or nighttime help. Some of them help you help yourself and do a great job of letting you make your own decisions with a little extra help. If that’s all you need, we can provide this for you.
However, there are also a lot of people, and a lot of books, with a whole bunch of bad advice, sleep systems, expensive protocols, and not much science. Worse yet, they blog, post, talk all sorts of undermining, unhelpful, and downright harmful junk!
What you get from “them”…?
We are pressuring parents to have unreasonable expectations for themselves and their babies. Have you been told to expect children to “sleep through the night” some age? Have you head that you should breastfeed when needed, but also never let the babe fall asleep, or stay in your arms, or even let their babe sleep in the same room?
Mothers come to me confused about what to do. The books, and websites have gotten pushier, they publish even more wrong science, the things they say to you began to undermine your belief in yourself to your core
Have you tried or thought about trying literally everything, even the horrible things, and none of it has “worked”?
What you get from me
What you get from me is completely different from offerings out there.
I educate using my university education in cognitive science, and background in normative sleep, normal and atypical child development, and breastfeeding and infant feeding.
I teach you what is normal at what age, that your child acting on biological averages is just fine, and why it’s okay to nurse your baby to sleep every time if it’s working for you.
I plan with you, and your spouse, and any other household members if you want, with my training as a peer counsellor.
I help you build your own plan, not regurgitate a plan I found in a book, or made up.
I never tell you what to do. I always support you in figuring out what you will choose to do.
$0Per 15 Phone CallWant to learn exactly that I do? Schedule a quick call to talk over how I can help.
$80Per HourNeed a quick pick me up for sleep. Just have a question or two and want support and information. Hourly appointments make it easy to get a bit of help, without a long term financial commitment.
$140Per Co-parentsEvening and weekend 3 Hour workshops for families (two co-parents or family members) to learn the basic principles of sleep communication and collaborative strategy building.
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$190Per SessionNeed more support? Want to work with your spouse or family on the entire collaborative strategies plan. A 3 hour session with me at our clinic or in your home. Request Now
$390Per PackageJust starting out? Need support right through the process. 5 hours worth of support. Either as two sessions, or as one three hour support session with 2 follow up hours.
$100USPer Hour CallNot in the Kitchener Waterloo area and want sleep support. I take calls over phone or Skype anywhere in the world.
Sleep Best Practises – Not Sleep Training
Just because it “worked for me”, or because “our baby was ‘fine'” doesn’t mean that it’s the right practise for you. Choices about your child, any child, should work for the babe that’s having the hardest time, the babe that is the least self-regulating, the child that really needs the most help.
In many disciplines this is called Best Practises. In Engineering it’s called Inherent Safe Design – I like that idea, shouldn’t sleep, and the help we give our child, first be inherently safe for everyone? We gather together Best Practises for your family, and learn what is biologically normal, what works best for our families given the situation we live in, and what goals we’re striving for for our children.
Collaborative Problem Solving – Not Programs
Just because I don’t tell you what to do, doesn’t mean that I can’t help you with a structure that has worked for many parents and couples to make plans that work for them in the middle of the night while they, and their baby, are all crying and yelling.
I use a collaborative problem solving method called “Plan A, Plan B, and Plan C” which I also call the “Swimming, Sinking, and Surfing” system. Working together, after figuring out the best practises that work in your household, we decide which choices fit in each of your family’s Plans.
“Sensory Diet” Integration – Not Sensory Overload
Some children really need help with supporting their bodies and minds towards sleep, more than average. Rather than being berated for not being “consistent” enough, parents need real techniques that help children get the “sensory diet” they need. Just like a food diet, we look for balance, and diversity to feed our bodies the way they need – and not every diet is right for everyone – a sensory diet gives a child’s body the sensation “nutrients” they need to have a balanced day – and night!